It’s been a very very long time since I post VISTA here! So I want to post something related to my birthday.
Well, my birthday was on June but I wanna share something that I find really important. My close friend kept asking me what I want for my birthday. Months away from my birthday. As someone who rarely has desire or wish in anything really, I was really confused what to say. I kept telling him nothing but he kept asking me what I want. So I told him, “well, I’ll let you know if I suddenly want something.”
In the end, I didnt want anything.
I rarely want a physical thing to have. I dont buy new gadgets often but I usually just wait for my brother to give me his old phone. But I always find time is the most valuable thing that someone can give me. Well, my love language (in terms of receiving) is quality time (followed by act of service and physical touch in number 2). So, I asked my friend to give him his time for me. I want him to be with me the whole day.
Simple isnt it? But very expensive. Can you imagine what can you do for 24h? A lot. And I asked him to give me his time, wow my present was super expensive.
He was confused and said that it’s what we usually do at least every week.
There’s nothing special in it. I always hang out with you especially during the weekend.
Well yea, but for me it’s what makes it so special. I always appreciate his effort to spend time with me every week. For me, that’s a lot already.
So what did we do on my birthday?
The usual. Just hang out, watching movie and have lunch really. Well the only difference was that I bought something from my favorite restaurant and ate it at home with him.
So yea, I pamper myself a lot during my birthday with friend companionship and take away food.
Oh and of course, video call with my parents and brother! We did this small celebration with donut as my cake and I blew the candles during the call. I felt so happy and blessed.
Soooo today is 23rd of September and this would be my official first year here in Germany! Wooo! At first I want to post the 7th post of the 30 days writing challenge (since I delayed it, again) but then again it’s my first year so I just wanna talk about it. Aaaand it’s not Saturday but here I am posting VISTA. This one is an exception :3 wuwu
I have posted some of the journey and the process for me to actually go to Germany but this post would be dedicated to my first day and first year. I arrived in Germany, in Hamburg to be precise, on 23 Sept. Before I flew here, I contacted my close friend, Keno – who lives in Munich, about my plan. Yep, he knew the process from the beginning (applying for school etc). He told me that he wanted to pick me up. And he really did that. Can you imagine, a 15 hour bus ride from Munich to Hamburg right after he just finished work? Damn. I can imagine how tired he was. Afterwards, we went to Kiel together. Sooo another one hour ish bus ride for him.
He stayed with me for 3 days and 2 nights. I rent two rooms in a hotel well.. it upset him though hahaha he told me that we could save some money if we just rent airbnb or he could actually decide on better location. The location was not that bad but I agree that we could save some money if we just rent airbnb hahahaha. I just felt bad when he said that he wanted to pick me up so I paid for the rooms without telling him. And yea, that upset him again ahahhaha. Oh well
Anyway, on the second day I took care of my enrolment, bank account and health insurance. Of course, Keno was there with me all the time and helped me with stuffs. It was also my very first time to go to IKEA. We have IKEA back in Indonesia but I have never visited it.
After Keno went back home, everything felt different. It was the first time I actually realised I am on my own now. All alone. To be honest, it felt kinda weird because I am not the type who likes to rely on others. At that point, I realised that I took everyone for granted back at home. I have never felt alone because they are there. Not always right beside me but everyone, friends or family, will be there if I need them. And yea, my first couple of months in Germany were not very great. I managed to get some friends that I hang out regularly but something is missing. I guess I missed home at that time and hence I was so happy when my former colleagues visited Europe. Also, I am not sure what triggered it or if I already have this since long time ago but was not diagnosed, I kept getting nightmares to the point I could not sleep. So yea, things were rough.
You are lucky that you always have someone wherever you go
Keno to me in 2019
But hey, there are also many great things! I have this circle that I am very close to. I mentioned about them couple of times as well. They are from various countries and we study different subjects here. How do we meet each other? Who knows hahaha. I kept getting that question though. We call ourselves “The Herd,” well we kept changing the name on WhatsApp group but the name “Herd” always stay. It is kinda sad because some of them are back to their countries (ERASMUS students), some went to other places (doing ERASMUS) and some are still stuck in their home country due to corona. But we still talk to each other, either on the group, personal chat or other social media. We also like to play games and talk on Discord so it is fun! Ah I miss them.
Oh, I also have a really small circle with my fellow Indonesians. Yep, who else but Arki and Hanif hahaha. Last Friday we went to Berlin and I felt so bad it looked like I was in a badmood (I was). I was not upset with them but I had stye in my eyelid it was so painful to blink, to close my eyes or even to open my eyes and see. Dammit what do you waaaant.
Keno once said to me that I am lucky that I always have someone wherever I go. And he is right. Cete also said similar thing: you’re lucky you found someone, heck more than one person even, right away after you arrived here. It took me long time to get close to someone. I have Keno and Cete (my former senior back in uni) who already know me for years. I have Arki and Hanif who are right next to me. And, of course, the herd, who are umm spread around various countries? Hahaha. Oh well, some are still here though.
So yea, my first year in Germany is full with colours. Sometimes it’s gloomy and dark but sometimes it’s just full of colourful bright colours. It’s not always great living here where you dont know many people, but just like Keno has said, I always have someone wherever I go.
Sooo I am currently at home in Indonesia since mid February. My plan was to go back to Germany by 20 March but then everything turns into havoc (is it a correct situation to use the word in a sentence?).
My initial flight got cancelled 2 days before departure since my flight had a short layover (30 minutes) in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia and the government announced that they wanted to do a national lockdown. Then I rescheduled my flight with my friend to the next week, 27 March. We still used the same airline though by this time. So the next flight was supposed to fly from Jakarta to Singapore (transit for around 3-4 hours) then to Amsterdam (transit for 4-5 hours) and to Hamburg. But then couple of days before my departure, I saw that my flight from Amsterdam to Hamburg had been cancelled without any notification to me either via the airline apps nor email. Basically, no notification really.
I tried to find a solution in this problem, so I contacted my friend who currently lives in Leiden and told her that my flight was cancelled and I was planning to take train from Amsterdam to Hamburg. I saw that the train was still operating and I asked her if I could stay at her place if there is any problem suddenly comes up and I have to stay in the Netherlands. Alright, problem solved right? Right? Ohhohoho of course not.
Then 2 days before my departure, my friend told me that Singapore forbid any short term visitor including transit. Great. Now my flight from Jakarta to Singapore has been cancelled. But weirdly enough, my flight from Singapore to Amsterdam was not cancelled. Umm, excuse me? How can I get to Singapore again? Swim from Jakarta to Singapore? Wut? My flight from Jakarta to Hamburg was with the same airline and I bought the ticket directly from them and I am not sure why they didnt cancel my flight from Singapore to Amsterdam as well. Because of that I could not really do anything, I could not reschedule my ticket sad. I tried to contact them but it is sooooo hard. Nothing gets through basically. Oh well, I can kind of understand but come on…. And now the refund is not in the form of cash but travel voucher, correct me if I am wrong but as far as I know, you could not do that and the passengers are entitled to have their money back.
After couple of days being confused on what to do and when should I go back etc, I finally decided to refund my ticket. I guess it’s better than to get nothing in return? Besides, I dont know how long the ban will last so rescheduling flight again and again is pointless in my opinion
I am now planning to go back to Germany by finding a direct flight from Jakarta to Amsterdam. Hopefully i can find one. Again guys I am not trying to speak ill of the airline or anyone really, I just vent my frustration basically.
I know this is a difficult time for all of us, I am sorry for spreading such negativity but I just need to let it all out guys, I really just wanna go back home as I still have my classes and yes of course I understand there are many with problem similar or even worse to me. Stay strong, stay safe, stay healthy and please do what the government told you to do. Stay at home, so they could do their job and lets hope and pray (if you guys believe in God) that this too shall pass soon.