#10 How I Met “ADK”

Hey you guys!

The 10th day theme is best friend and to be honest I dont know what to write and who should I write about. Heck, even if I know what do I say? Well yea they’re nice and what? I have couple of friends that I considered as my best friends so let’s start with ADK. Eh I’ll just write about them in this post

What’s ADK stand for though? Anak Depan Kopma

Okay so that word is from my native language. Hm how should I explain it. I’ll start with Kopma. So, it’s an abbreviation from Koperasi Mahasiswa. I wont go into detail about what Koperasi is but basically this Kopma is a small store in my uni (every faculty usually have one) and it was run by the student body (we employed people to handle the store but the members of the student body also help around). So, to put it simply, it’s basically a store.

So, Anak Depan Kopma means kids who hang out in front of Kopma. Dont get me wrong, there was no sitting area in front of the store, just a umm small pavement I guess that’s the word? I dont even know what’s the word in my native language hahah because it’s not meant for people to walk on but yea.

So how do we meet?

I liked to buy some snacks at Kopma before and after class because it’s quick and simple. I was not a member of the student body who manage it until third semester but some of my friends were. So, as someone who likes to hang around basically after class, I liked to sit beside the entrance of the store and just ate my snack there. Sometimes other people saw me and then they started to sit beside me. And that’s how we liked to hang out in front of Kopma.

A close friend of mine, Keno – which I mentioned a lot in my post, was a member of the student body and so I met him a lot. He always at Kopma actually. Before I went to class, I met him helping as a cashier there. After class, I also met him there. Still helping around. Is this dude even go to class?

I had many classes together with Audrey and Nico in the second term. I basically changed all of my classes in the second term (it supposed to be automatically appointed by the faculty but there was some error and I panicked I havent got any class so I just registered myself and picked the “right” lecturer, if you know what I meant). So yea, supposedly I didnt have many classes together with Audrey and Nico but because of what I did, now we basically went around together everywhere every time. We sat next to each other, did group work together, ate together. You name it. Because I liked to go to Kopma they also went there with me. If I remember correctly, they were also member of the student body who manage it. But still, no one beats Keno when it comes to helping around at Kopma.

Then, Drevina was basically drawn to us hanging around at Kopma. Drevina and Keno also have same religion and we have this religion association for each religion, and so they were part of it. I’m pretty sure Drevina was also part of the student body. Damn I was the only one who hang around a lot because I liked to buy stuffs? Great.

It was actually kind of funny on how we met and just became one group until now. Keno who was basically at Kopma a lot because he didnt feel he belong there (at the uni; he felt like he chose the wrong major and had no friend), Audrey and Nico who basically shared the same class with me because I changed all of my class and Drevina, the most innocent among us, who were drawn into this mess.

To be honest, I was pretty surprised that I could maintain a friendship this long. Back when I was in high school, I usually had this close friends which changed every year. I meant we still talk but not as much and hence we grew apart. So cant really say that I am still close with them. I also had some close friends when I was in the first semester but for some reason I just… left? The cliche “it’s not you, it’s me” really does apply to me and my relationship with people. What is wrong with you, Kem?

Anywaaay, we are still close friends until now. Keno helped me settle here in Germany, Nico actually helped me to get a job and I still maintain a regular conversation with Drevina and Audrey, so we still update each other’s lives. Damn it feels good to actually have a proper relationship with people until now. Dont get me wrong, I still perceive some of my close friends from junior high school and high school as my close friends though we dont talk that much.

But ADK, they’re different. I truly love them as my friends and I care about them a lot.

Anyhoooo that’s it for today’s post and have a nice day you guys!

Cheers,

Kemmy

#9 Another Happiness Post

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Soooo I’m back with the 30 days writing challenge. I know I know, it’s not really 30 days challenge as I dont post regularly hahaha. Today’s theme is about happiness. Again. Well, the previous one was actually about things that make me happy which turned into a question what actually makes me happy.

So, just recently, a best friend of mine talked to me about her feeling unhappy with her life. I know her stories and why she is not happy. Many of my friends like to tell me their stories and why they are unhappy (or even happy). Some of them talked about their family which got me thinking about mine.

You see, I went to see a psychologist earlier this year because I felt, for quite some times, something is not right with me but I cant figure out what and why. If you check my older post about it, I talked about my toxic relationship with my ex. But another thing that the psychologist mentioned was about how I felt neglected when I was a kid. I was very surprised when she mentioned that because what I remember is that I have a really happy childhood and I am very fond of the memories. I got really defensive of course. How could this person who just met me attack my parents like that? Yea, I felt that she attacked my parents who tried their best to raise me and my brother. They love me. How could she?

Then she explained to me that it was not their intention to neglect me, emotionally. I might look at it just fine when I was a kid but deep down I wanted more. I don’t like being touched or touch other people. It bothers me until now. It gets better but still bother me. She mentioned that my “love tank” in the section of physical touch could be lacking when I was a kid. So I dont like physical contact that much and found it to be weird. Dont get me wrong, I still hold my parents hand and acted like a kid sometimes when I am around them like asking my dad to give me a piggy back ride (oh wow poor you Dad, I’m sorry I know I am heavy). But I dont hug or kiss my parents. I do, rarely.

Another thing is that my ex and my family said that I could be very distant or emotionally unavailable. To be honest, I dont feel that way but some people said so. I just need my space I guess. I just like being left alone sometimes or most of the times, depending on my mood or life situation. The psychologist said that these things could happen because both of my parents were working and I was left at home with 2 housekeepers and my brother. So I didnt get to see them very often and hang out with them.

Another thing is that, my parents tend to portray me as an independent child ever since I was a kid. I rarely cried when I was hurt like when I fell from bike, I always do everything myself, I never cried or whined when I was sick etc. I dont know whether it’s just me being me or it’s because how they portray me so now I am like this. Because I am used to do everything by myself, it is very hard for me to actually ask for help. My colleagues tend to said this to me: if you’re overwhelmed or tired or whatever, you do realise that you can ask for help right? Dont do everything by your own, you’ll get exhausted. Again, the psychologist also mentioned that this could happen because of my childhood.

I spent couple of months, even after I was back in Germany, thinking about what she said and still rejecting it. I dont want anyone to blame my parents and attack them of who I am. It is not their fault.

Then after talking to my psychologist again, I realised that it IS not their fault. It is no one’s fault. They dont mean it to harm me or neglect me. They are trying their best. They love me and my brother and have our best interests in mind. But no one is perfect, they might make some mistakes that they dont realise. We all do. They don’t fail me, but it’s just apparently my kid-self want something more and feel like it was not enough. I know there are some toxic parents (or children) out there but my parents are not.

So, was I happy during my childhood? Yes. Definitely.

Cheers,

Kemmy

Yang Gak Banyak Diomongin Orang: Ga enaknya tinggal di luar negeri (Part 1)

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Jadi sekarang lagi rame pada mau pindah negara karena udah pada emosi sama pemerintah. Gue ga akan comment tentang hal itu, ga akan bilang “udah pindah aja ke LN enak loh” atau “ngapain dah enak juga di Indo.” Tapi gue cuma bakal ngasih tau apa gak enaknya tinggal di luar negeri untuk bahan pertimbangan kalian. Karena gue rasa kalian mostly udah tau enaknya tinggal di luar negeri. Yaa biasanya itu yang selalu disorot di media dan diomongin orang orang kan? Hehe.

Ini cuma based on pengalaman gue ya, ga bisa disamain untuk semua orang. So far, gue baru setahun tinggal di Jerman karena lagi studi di sini, silahkan cek “Living in Germany” untuk cerita dari awal mau kuliah sampe idup gue sekarang. Gue juga udah banyak post kesan kesan kehidupan disini jadi bisa juga kalian baca-baca buat gambaran idup di luar negeri itu gimana yaa

Kurang asupan micin dan sambel

Jujur aja ya gue ini seneng banget asin asin. Beh dari gue kecil gue gadoin micin weey hahahaha. Dulu waktu kecil gadoin ajinomoto terus gue mengenal royco dan masako dan beralihlah gue ke royco/masako karena lebih gurih. Gue lebih suka yang kaldu sapi soalnya lebih gurih. Jir, ahli micin apa gua. Terus pas gue ke Filipin, temen gue bawa bon cabe ebi level 2 (gila masih inget gua). Dan di Filipin itu ga ada sambel, tiap gue minta sambel dikasih botol yang isinya minyak, bawah putih sebiji sama cabe sebiji. Ha? Mba? Mas? Sambel wey sambel bukan minyak bawang *nangis* Ya kebetulan gue anaknya demen pedes jadi disana menderita. Terus gue butuh asupan sambel dong eh ya ini Bon Cabe enak banget. Itu pertama kali gue makan bon cabe yaa. Yah digadoin deh. Yah abis. Yah nagih. WKWKWKW. Terus akhirnya gue pun pas balik Indo ngegadoin bon cabe level 15. Yang level 30 gasuka gue, ga ada asinnya lagian perut langsung sakit. Apakah tidak sakit perut gado bon cabe level 15? Oh sakit dong. Apakah berenti? WK gak. Ya emang susah punya lidah cem mati rasa ga ngerasa pedes tapi perut meronta ronta.

Nah kan Kemmy kemana kemana. Ya basically kalian tau lah ya kecintaan gue akan micin dan makanan pedes dari cerita di atas. Terus disini gimana? Sambel? Makanan pedas? Micin? Apaaaa ituuu??? Hahahaha. Disini jual kaldu tapi ya gitu cem ga ada MSG dan ga gurih. Asian needs their MSG, man. Kaldu bubuk disini namanya boullion tapi ya ga segurih penyedap di Indo. Mind you, gue ga pake itu kalo masak. Cuma suka digadoin aja wkwkkw #generasimicin. Terus chiki? HAHAHAHA. Apa itu chiki. Ada aja cuma ya, again, mana MSG nya woooy. Untung gue ga makan chiki jadi kekecewaan MSG gue berkurang sebiji. Disini ga ada cabe atau sambel? Ya ada dong sayang. Tapi mahal hahaha *emoji senyum kebalik* Belum lama ini gue beli rawit ijo yang kayak di abang abang gorengan. Harganya? 3 euro sajaaah. Harga ayam paha atas 4 biji aja ga nyampe 2 euro. Kebanding kan mahalnya?

ayam < cabe

Terus gue gimana? Ya udah mau diapain wkwkwk lah sedih. Gue tetep beli cabe dan makan makanan “pedas” cuma ya intensitas pake cabe gue kurangin. Makanan Indonesia ada gak sih kayak bon cabe gitu? Kalo di Jerman ada Toko Indonesia di Hamburg, jual bon cabe dan segala macamnya. Tapi ya Bon Cabe sebiji 3 euro-an tuh gimana hahaha. Lagi lagi: cabe > ayam

Bumbu buat masak mahal

Wah gila sih makanan Indonesia tuh kayak nasi padang favorit gue banget. Wah bayangin makanan Indo yang bumbunya cemacem itu.. Waaah. Kalo kata inpluenser jaman sekarang “mo meninggal.” Semenjak balik lagi ke Jerman April ini gue mulai sering masak. Dari yang awalnya bumbu gue cuma garem sama lada (wk) terus makan paling ummm daging burger? chicken wing beku? kalo pun masak yaaa asal tuang yang ada wkwkw. Nah mulai lah gue cari cari resep sampe melon pan pun pernah gue buat hahahah. Beli dong bumbunya kayak dedaunan basil, rosemary, thyme atau dashi kalo masak masakan jepang, garam masala, jinten, kunyit, jahe, minyak wijen lala lili apalah you name it. Terus abis berapa? 20 euro? HAHAHA. NGELAWAK KAMU. LEBIH DOOOONG. KALI CUMA 20 EURO. Nih ya, kecap asin aja harganya tuh 2 euro itu juga kecap asin merk Ja! – merk supermarket (REWE) sini yah kayak merknya Indoma*et gitu lah jadi murah. Iya belanjaan gue mostly merek itu wkwkwk #aingmiskin mau kikkoman tapi ya mahal wkwkwk. Terus dedaunan itu, satu botol kecil bisa 2 euro juga.

Yaelah bumbu lebih mahal dari ayam. Lagi-lagi:

ayam < bumbu (apapun itu lah)

Lah ya kesel tapi bosen makan masakan cepat saji mulu. Ga sehat juga kan huuu. Kalau di total bumbu yang selama ini gue beli…. ah gamau mikir hahahahha *nangis dipojokan

Tapi, makan di luar lebih mahal lagi

Nah iya. Kesel belanja bumbu mahal. Pengen makan yang rasanya ga cuma garem sama merica butuh modal wkwkw. Tapi ya kalo jajan lebih mahal lagi. Dulu di Indonesia gue masih lumayan sering makan di luar. Yaelah ngopi deh. Pasti pada sering jajan kopi, cafe cafe cantik atau sekadar take away. Beli kopi di Indonesia 12 rebu masih dapet tuh di FamilyMa*t (favorit gue sih ini muach) lah disini HAHAHA KOPI SUSU AJA BISA 3 EURO AN. GUE PERNAH BELI 4 EURO HAHAHA MO BILANG MBA GA JADI MAHAL AMAT TAPI UDAH JADI KAN GA BISA YA (yah ngegas).

Lagi-lagi:

ayam < kopi

Ini si ayam harganya lebih rendah dari apapun apa yak wkwkwk ya elah auk amat dah. Yah itu baru kopi makanan gimana Kem? AHAHAHA paling murah sih ya döner palingan. KFC? Mahal. Mekdi? Elah cuma ada burger, paling murah 1 euro tapi udah naik jadi 1.20an lupa gua hahha. Again, mana kenyang.

Daaan yang paling penting untuk orang Indonesia kebanyakan:

Udah siap cebok pake tisu kering?

Yep. Orang orang sini mah cebok cuma pake tisu kering wkwkkw. Mau tahan pipis terus pipis di rumah aja? Ya rumah kalian juga tetep ga ada bidet sih hahaha paling tuh kalo harus banget cebok ya pake kepala shower hahahha. Untungnya sih kalo yang ini gue ga masalah karena udah terbiasa cebok pake tisu, biasanya tisunya gue tetep pake yang tisu basah atau ya pake air. Iya gue kemana kemana bawa botol. Bukan. Bukan buat cebok tapi buat minum soalnya beli air mahal wkwkw. Kalo di luar gue untungnya hampir ga pernah pengen ke toilet, kenapa? BAYAR HAHAHAH TOILET DI EMOL AJA BAYAR. Gue pernah tuh pengen bet pipis akhirnya sa bodo amat lah ya aing mau pipis, ke toilet lah gue pas di stasiun kereta. Uwow bayar 1 euro. Biasanya di emol 50 sen. Pipis termahal gua.

Yaaah kurang lebih begitu sih ga enaknya tinggal di luar negeri. Karena ada banyak dan gue udah ngomong ngalor ngidul panjang lebar ini post gue rasa panjang bener jadinya jadi gue stop dulu aja ya sampe sini. Nanti gue tambahin lagi apa yang ga enak dari tinggal disini. Eh ini mah jadi post curhat ya lama lama? Hahaha

Well anyway, good luck bagi kalian yang lagi apply untuk kerja/sekolah di luar negeri. Inget ya, tinggal di luar negeri baik itu kalian cuma sekolah kayak gue, itu ga gampang dan rasanya ya enak ga enak. Kalo kalian pengen kuliah di luar negeri cuma supaya bisa jalan jalan, ya gue gak nyaranin sih mending kalo gitu kalian emang jalan jalan aja gausah sampe sekolah. Sekolah mahal. Sekolah gratis? Emang idup ga bayar? Jalan jalan ya silahkan tapi jangan dijadiin motivasi buat sekolah. Gitu. Rugi waktu, energi dan uang.

Lah malah ceramah wkwkwk. Yah anyway stay safe and healthy guys!

Cheers,

Kemmy